Why is it that the older I get the harder it is to make friends. Maybe I am just not that good at making friends, but I just don't know what to say to start a friendship. I am a pretty boring person so I don't have a lot of stuff to relate to other people with. The things I am passionate about are health, and healthy eating but few people think the same way I do. Whenever I talk I tend to be a little over the top when I share my opinion and usually offend people. I don't mean to be, and I don't feel as passionate as I sound but most people don't know that. So I have confined myself to share very little about how I truly feel.
The only problem with this no friend thing, is I need people around me. I am the middle child and I am use to having people around. When I was in college I didn't want a single room. I always wanted to a roommate. It is a good thing I got married. Even when Sam and I are fighting beyond belief and he volunteers to sleep on the couch, I never let him. I would rather have him be close and me mad than have him away. :)
So if anyone has any advice on how to make friends please let me know.
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move to hungary and be closer to me?
I feel the same way about myself. I love having people around, but in the past decade of my life, it seems like friendships are much much fewer and far between....
Well, I stink at friend making, too. Except in Taiwan where, strangely, it's easy for me to make friends.
I'm sorry. I'm not good at making friends. I always feel so awkward! I find, though, that I don't have too much of a problem visiting with other moms in the Mother's Room at church when I'm nursing (and, if the conversation dies, you can always pretend you're helping your baby), or just visiting with other moms about our children. Does your ward do play groups?
Hi Sally's sister! You left such a nice comment on my blog- Thanks. I am still in the throes of figuring out what works for me and my family in the world of health nutrition. I so relate.
AND...(Big AND), I very much relate to this post about making friends. I'm always offending someone with my opinions it seems (even though I'm not really that opinionated.) And I'm horrible at chit-chat, so I don't make friends easily, either. This time YOU have put my feelings into words so well.
Nice to meet you!
Wow- having friends! This is my favorite topic! I have plenty of sympathy, I HATE being in friend limbo in that first while of a new place! I get so depressed and lonely, and it's such an awful feeling! But since we have moved so often and i'm so completely dependant on socializing for my sanity, I have a couple tricks in my bag that hopefully can help you too!(ignore the rest of this if you actually just want sympathy, because I'm all for that too! Consider yourself hugged!)
1. Call me! My phone number is the same, but I dont have yours. (okay that's not really advise, but I miss you!)
2. Nothing builds friendship like service so watch for opportunities like a hawk! It's hard when you don't feel needed, but we are just as accountable to love and serve people that we just met, so with the responsibilty Heavenly Father will always send means to accomplish it. Plus, it makes you feel great. (Being your friend, I know for a fact you have SOOO much to offer, you are so genuinely sweet, thoughtful, easy going, and hillarious! So dont be shy to share yourself)
3. This is cheesy, but you should pray about it. You might not find a BFF gal pal instantly, but Heavenly Father is pretty darn good at combating lonliness, even if it's just changing how you feel.
4. Try not to think of yourself as the outsider, once you move to a new place/ward, it's yours as much as it is anyone elses so jump right in and make yourself at home.
5. Move here. Blast, that's not an option is it? Okay. fine. I love you friend! Weather the storm, you will totally rock this!
And call me :o)
I wish I could say something...I am not good at that either...
but I know I can say that I am jealous that you were with my parents this weekend!
Hope it was fun!
Just dropped in to say that we share the same layout ;)
But while when I read your post, I guess, when we get older we creat options for ourself.. so many options that it gets difficult to find the satisfaction and so we end up being lonely.
This seems to be a fair explanation for me too.. but in my case, I ain't so much around people that I could to friendship :|
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